The First Step to Getting What You Want is Knowing What You Want
Do you ever find yourself struggling to get what you want? No matter how patient you are or how open you are to the possibilities the world has to offer, it just never seems to work out for you. If the answer is yes, I may have the solution to your problem.
We've all heard the term “keep your options open,” but what if keeping our options open actually narrows our ability to get what we want? Being specific – I mean really specific, – increases our chances of getting what we want. This goes for everything, including business. Keeping our options open usually results in settling for something that isn't meant for us.
Where our focus goes energy flows.
If we don't have something specific to focus on, the energy doesn't know where to go. So, by being clear about our expectations and standards for what we want in life and business, we can create better results.
Important note: There is a difference between specificity and attachment.
For example, say you’ve decided you're finally ready for a relationship. In order to find the right one, you must be specific about the type of partner you’re looking for. This might be making a list of all the qualities you want this person to have and the way you want to feel when you’re with them. Then, you would only pursue relationships with people who possess the qualities you’re looking for.
Attachment would be meeting one person and deciding that they have to be the one; everything you do from that point is about making sure you stay with that person. Being specific is about owning our standards and knowing we're worthy of getting what we want. Being attached is a result of stubbornness and cuts us off from possibility, therefore cutting us off from getting what we want. When we find ourselves attached to something, it is usually because we don't feel secure in our ability to attain it.
A lot of us don't actually know what we want. We haven’t taken the time to consider that our desires could be a reality. So what do we do about it?
An easy first step to knowing what you want is to look at what you don't want.
Then, narrow it down from there. Over time, create a list of non-negotiable standards. The key is that once you know what your non-negotiables are, you don't budge on them. You don't accept anything less than exactly what you deserve. If someone or something doesn't meet your non-negotiable standards, it isn’t meant for you. The good news is that once we get clear on what we want and act accordingly, the universe does most of the heavy lifting in keeping us away from situations that don't serve us.
Our job is to keep showing up, set appropriate boundaries, and honor our worth. So if you struggle with getting what you want, give this a try and let me know how it goes! And remember, you are always worth getting exactly what you want.
Fundamental #9: COMMUNICATE TO BE UNDERSTOOD
Communicate in the least complicated way so your audience understands you. This applies to all communication: Spoken, written, illustrated, etc. We are accountable for what people take from our communication.
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