No one wants to cop to being a victim. There seems to be a reluctance in most of us to admit that we are at any given time acting, talking or thinking like someone who has been victimized. Right now I’m being victimized by Microsoft Word spell and grammar check as it underlines words and phrases I type incorrectly. Small example, but it shows how pervasive this mentality can be. 
The alternative to being a victim is quite simple: taking the path of full accountability, but we don’t always do it.
Why? The adult reason could be we don’t want to admit fault … but let’s get to that later.
Another possibility? Could be there’s just not as much drama in it … thinking drama doesn’t apply to you?
Let’s see.
If you get wronged by someone, some thing, or traffic, or the weather … taking responsibility for your role in the matter just isn’t as juicy as blaming your circumstances. If you call up your sympathizers and sway them to your side it can be bring an interesting and dramatic fun to your life. Plus you have a story to tell … again, and again, and again, and again.
It could even become the story of your life! Now you have an identity to cling to and to blame for your failures!
I would have been successful if not for that thing that happened to me when I was a child …
I would have been on time if not for the unexpected traffic at 5:30 on a Friday afternoon …
I could go to the gym if not for my family and all their demands …
A little dramatic, yes. But isn’t that what we do?
What might be the dramatic story of your life? If you don’t think you have one ask the people in your life. It will occur to them as the thing(s) you regularly complain about. 
Big topics might be:
Marriage, job or health …
Smaller ones might look like:
Aches, allergies, broken back door, appliance with a mind of its own …
The relief is found in a jump from victim mentality to accountability … and it is actually a short little hop. How do we make that hop?
More on victim mentality another day … I did headline this entry as a teaser, but we’ll leave you with this:
More than requiring real work what it really takes is a different way of thinking about who’s in charge of your life. The willingness to make that shift in thinking is what makes all the difference.
Next time … Are there unexpected benefits of Forgiveness?









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In The Spirit of a New Order of Things
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hen Moses led the Israelites out of Egypt, if he had known he would among other things have to wander in the desert for 40 years subsisting on flat cakes, he may not have taken on the job. I think a lot of leaders are like that. The idea of building organizational excellence into the fabric of their organization for sustained superiority sounds good; then they try it!
After all, a leader’s job could be legitimately framed in the task of growing the organization. Now growth could be in size, revenue, margins, profits, stock price, etc, but nonetheless most leaders’ performance is assessed in terms of growing something. A lot of CEO’s, owners, executives find ways to accomplish this. This is not the “wandering in the desert for forty years part”, this is the getting out of Egypt and crossing the Red Sea part. I don’t know, but reading suggests that Moses kept the Israelites wandering through inspiration, manipulation and belief, not to mention occasionally calling on the help of “higher authority”. This may be the first organizational effort to capture the engagement of its people. So what is the point?
If you are going to grow the fabric of the organization, you have to grow the spirit!
If you don’t, as you grow the physical you stretch the Spirit of your organization thinner and thinner. You get big, you have a large footprint and there is little essence to what you have.
Look at most large corporations, see if this model fits what you see and hear. So, I ask you, where is the heart of your company? Are you attending to it? Are you focused on growing your revenue or engaging your people? In the end, we think it takes both. In the March 10 article, “Bringing about a new order of things ll”, we gave you a template. Consider it a road map. Should you be bold enough to take on the journey, remember Moses and consider the following, it’s a long arduous effort and nurture the Spirit, the body will follow.